You won’t be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay.
The photo of the cup of tea above is how I take my tea. I take it with almond milk, no sugar. Now I’m sure there are a lot of you for whom this tea is just very wrong and you have different tea preferences. Each tea drinker thinks a different shade of tea is the “perfect cuppa”, and there are people dotted all along the vast spectrum from taking it black (no milk in sight) to those at the opposite end who’s tea makes you question if they’re having a mug of tea or a mug of hot milk (no shade intended to those people btw!)
A note on why comparison doesn’t work
So today is A level results day in the UK, the day when teenagers all over the country receive the results of their final exams of secondary school which dictate whether they get into the university of their choice. I’ve been sat reflecting on my own “results day”, this day two years ago, and this is what I wish I had understood back then…
Take a moment to celebrate your achievement before beginning to chase the next one
As highlighted in my previous posts I’ve been worrying a lot about the future and how I’ll achieve future goals, and it’s occurred to me today that often we become so obsessed with writing out lists of goals and plans for us to complete, that we actually end up just hopping straight from one goal to the next without taking a moment to fully enjoy and admire our accomplishment. Like give yourself a pat on the back every once in a while!! So today I want to encourage you to take a minute to reflect on how far you’ve come.
The brain is complicated, and even more complicated to treat…
As a chemistry student and lover of the subject, I have a student membership for the Royal Society of Chemistry, and with this comes a monthly subscription to their magazine CHEMISTRYWORLD. This gives me an in depth monthly catch up with what’s going on in the world of chemistry. In this month’s issue (July 2020) one article in particular caught my attention; “Treating our brains better” by Andy Extance.
The article starts with the worrying fact that big pharmaceutical companies are reducing their focus on developing new treatments for central nervous system (CNS) conditions despite there still being many conditions in need of treatments being found.
Why is this? Well it comes down to a few main factors…
That looks heavy, maybe you should let it go – Have a mental clear out with me
I’ve recently been struggling with my head being far too full of worries, and the feeling of butterflies in my stomach has persisted over the past two weeks which I haven’t experienced in a long time. I read a beautiful quote on Instagram a while back which said, “You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy,” and this has inspired me to lighten my load by letting go of some unnecessary concerns that are weighing on my mind:
Exciting Poetry Update!
Just popping on here to let you know that I’ve started a poetry account on Instagram! It’s called poemsasigrow. I started it as I’ve been writing rather a lot of poems recently and have always loved following poetry accounts such as Morgan Harper Nichols so thought it would be cool to give it a go myself.
I want to be able to say, “I did it my way.”
Recently I’ve become increasingly aware of how much attention I give to what others might think of my life. In fact I’d say that a good 50% of my worries are related to what others might think, and I stress the might!
Frank Sinatra had a brilliant song titled ‘My Way’ in which he looked back on his life and reflected on how he could happily say that he lived it the way he wanted to. And I’ve been thinking lately about how many of us can actually say that we are not ruled by the worry of what other people might think?
Holding Out for Hope – Tips for When You Feel Hopeless
Recently I’ve realised how common a feeling of hopelessness is among people of all ages. From chatting to my 89 year old Granda who has been very down lately because of his health, to talking to friends struggling mentally and feeling stuck with their anxiety/depression and as though there is no way out. I’ve been thinking about how important hope is to have but then realised that I don’t really know how you go about getting it back. Or do you just have to wait until it finds you again?
Poems about feeling hopeless
Hope you enjoy these simple poems and that they maybe bring you some comfort in testing times 🙂 You are never without hope, it can just sometimes be hard to see. But hold on for it will make itself visible to you again soon.
Aiming for a Jolly July
Today I’m going to be sharing some ways in which I’m trying to make this month a happy and mentally-good one 🙂
Dealing with the Excruciating Emotion of Embarrassment
We’ve all been there. The word was out before you had time to assess how it sounded. You’re lying sprawled out on the ground in the most undignified of positions after missing the last step. You’re mind draws a blank in front of a room of judgemental eyes. You just want to leave….immediately. You just want to jump onto your bed face down and have the mattress clamp shut on you, so that you never have to face them again. You’re utterly, excruciatingly embarrassed
If I could give some advice to my younger self starting out at university away from home, this is what I’d tell her…
Having just finished my second year at uni and had the best year I ever could have imagined (despite it being cut short unfortunately) I’ve been reflecting on the ways I would handle things differently if I were to to do the transition from school to university again. Listed below are the top 10 pieces of advice that I would want to impart to my past self.
Lose your fear of your thoughts – Tips for not letting your anxious and irrational thoughts get in your way
I’ve already alluded to the fact that my A level years and first year of university were harder than they should have been and a lot of this was due to my obsessive thinking. It would have been okay if I had been obsessing over my subjects, in fact I used to joke that if I thought as much about chemistry as I did irrational things I would have a flipping Nobel Prize by now haha! But unfortunately I couldn’t make this mental shift and my brain stayed focussed on the stupid, irrational thoughts rather than anything useful.
Two short poems on overthinking
I’ve recently taken to putting my thoughts into verse as I actually find it rather therapeutic and a bit of fun so enjoy! 🙂 (P.S. I know I’m no poet but why not show it haha)
What would I do if I knew I had only two years left to live?
I recently began listening to a podcast called Not Overthinking created by two brothers Ali and Taimur Abdaal, and I came across one of their episodes called ‘How would you spend your time if you knew you’d die in 2 years?’. Before even listening to the podcast my mind was beginning to answer this question and the answer greatly surprised me.
Let’s Talk: Exam Stress
With my university exams starting this week I haven’t been able to think about much else recently and have had my fair share of “Omg I’m going to fail. What if I don’t get into third year? My housemates will have to find someone else to take my room. I don’t know what I’d do. Imagine having to tell my family…”and so the panic and spiralling continues moments. Sound familiar?
In an attempt to snap myself out of these moments of impending doom I began compiling a list of reasons why I shouldn’t get myself worked up about exams in the notes section of my phone. I now quickly whip up this list when I start to feel another panic coming on. So today I thought I’d share this list with you in case any of you are in the same boat and in need of some calming affirmations 🙂
Tips for keeping going on the days when you aren’t feeling like your usual self
Today I’m going to be sharing with you how I’m learning to handle the days when I don’t feel myself. This post is mainly inspired by how I’m currently trying to cope with my IBS symptoms while preparing for exams and trying to not let my upset tummy hold me back, but it can be applied to any day when you need to get things done but aren’t feeling like your usual self for whatever reason.
20 Things I’ve Learned In 20 Years
To round of my birthday celebrations and to celebrate the start of my blog I thought I’d do a ’20 things I’ve learned in 20 years’ post! I’ve been through quite the mental health journey in the past 10 years that has taught me a lot about how to manage difficult feelings and my goal for my newly commenced third decade of life is to actually implement these findings into my day-to-day living.
Just gonna go for it! ahh
Hey! :)So this is a bit daunting…(I’m also just realising how hard I find it to write without emojis and as far as I know I need to upgrade my plan to get them so I’m just gonna have to get used to this!)
Welcome to my first blog post! Exciting times 😀 Today is my 20th birthday so I decided I’m going to adult-up and stop dreaming and start doing, hence this blog. To have a blog where I can talk about mental health and tips on managing it has been a dream of mine for a while.
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